It seems like wherever we turn, we face challenges, whether they are personal or collective. With that comes blame, judgement, guilt, shame and all sorts of unpleasant emotions that keeps us in suffering, smallness, unworthiness.
The thing is, we have to look at the source of it, which is within. It is not others or the world to blame. We are not being challenged from outside, it is how we react to those challenges within, depending on our past memories, wounds, traumas, etc.
It is a call for love, care and attention.
Our challenges are nothing but emotional wounds, triggered by certain situations, people, words, actions. This is a good sign, believe it or not. They keep reminding us that there’s something in need of our attention, to be healed, forgiven, released.
If we can bring more awareness to our mind-body connection, we can understand interconnectedness between challenges and resources (our own innate wisdom), shadow and light parts of ourselves, and the distinction between past, present and future.
I have discovered hope in my own challenges. They were revealing something more than they appeared to be. I felt a silent guide underneath the veil of heaviness which was showing me the way to a solution, to resource.
Here are 3 ways to discover what your challenges are telling you:
1. I am soul within my body (formless within form).
This understanding allows us to see ourselves beyond the body form which gives us different perspective on how we see ourselves and the world around us.
Exercise: Think of a challenge you are going through right now. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and connect with your body. Feel yourself inside of it. Allow your body to move, whichever way it wants to move. Let it take you into its own expression of what that particular challenge feels to you in movement.
2. I am a never ending creator in this life-time (limitless within space).
This empowers you to step into creator role, a master of your life, the responsible one.
Exercise: Think of the same challenge as above. Take a piece of paper and colored pencils or markers. Start drawing (using colors) your challenge (no drawing skills needed).
3. I am challenged but I am not taken over by it (reality beyond challenges is full of possibilities).
This allows you to see that there’s a way out of it. Challenges are showing the way out if we only tend to look at them from a different perspective.
Exercise: Think of the same challenge. Take a journal and a pen and start writing from the challenge's point of view, as if that challenge is speaking to you. What does it want you to see, hear, know.
Image by Fajar P. Domingo
Try this 3-step exercise and see what comes out of it for you. Most importantly, don’t take it too seriously. You can experiment with different triggers/challenges.
It could be a very powerful way to find your resources/gifts in challenges.
I can’t wait to hear and see what insights you got. Please share if you wish. Would love to hear from you.
At Aluravida, I teach and guide different modalities and practices to help women and men with self-expression, to deepen connection within themselves, to rediscover joy of intimacy, to find peaceful presence in a mids of challenges, so we can heal from shame and judgement.